Episode 41:Healing Your Inner Child Wounds Through Conscious Reparenting with Danielle Faust
Much of our parenting is based on beliefs that we inherited from our own childhood. If we’re not careful and not doing the work to unf*ck our brains, we will be constantly stuck in cycles of toxic generational narratives. But what’s beautiful about the mind is that it’s malleable. We have the power to change and become the parents we want to be.
In this episode, Danielle Faust and I talk about reparenting and how we, as parents, can work to continuously heal our inner child and positively reframe our mindsets around parenting. You’ll learn what inner child work is, how it shows up in parents’ lives, and three mindset shifts you can make to be the parent you want to be.
Danielle Faust is a dynamic, spiritual life coach, hypnotherapist, energy healer, psychic intuitive and speaker who helps busy women manifest the lives they have been dreaming of. Her coaching blends brain-based science, psychology and mindset reprogramming with spiritual and energetic modalities for a whole soul approach to healing and growth.
What is inner child work?
“Inner child work is when you, as an adult, go back to heal some of the misdeeds, erroneous beliefs, or traumas that were placed upon you during childhood,” Dani says.
Take a moment to think about how you’ve been hurt or wounded as a child. These wounds add up over the course of our lives, impact us as adults, and influence what we pass down to our children.
Just because we created a life, doesn’t mean we naturally, automatically know how to be a parent. We have to do this work on the individual level because there’s no one-size-fits-all method of parenting.
How do inner child wounds show up in your daily life?
On the daily, we face our wounds, whether we realize it or not, and how we respond to them matters. For example, your child is being “ungrateful” because they’re asking for another toy when they just got one. Meanwhile, you come from a childhood where you didn’t get anything but one toy on your birthday and one toy on Christmas. This could trigger you to feel annoyance, anger, or like you’re doing something wrong. That’s a wound you need to look at and heal so you don’t respond negatively to your child (who is only doing what a normal child does… ask for more!).
How do you heal inner child wounds?
Inner child wounds don’t just go away once you shine a light on them. You have to work through each wound and figure out why it’s there so that you can “let it dissipate or integrate”. In other words, either come to terms with it and choose how you’re going to behave next time or let it leave your life all together.
Remember, this process will bring up things that trigger you because you are actively creating a freedom for your children that you never had in your childhood. Do your best to be mindful and intentional with how you interact and connect with your kids. Learn from your mistakes and intentionally improve your parenting by integrating those teachings into your life, day after day.
It’s not about being present and being perfect every minute of every day. It’s about finding those “little pockets of time where you look at them in their eye,” as Dani says, so they know it’s safe to use their voice and advocate for themselves. Find small ways to connect with and advocate for your inner child and transmute that into how you connect with your kids and advocate for yourself.
Black and brown folks have an even harder time healing from inner child wounds because we’re also burdened with societal wounds. Despite the inequity, we need to do this work because if we don’t, we’re making the disparity and the harmful effects of these societal wounds even larger.
“When we’re talking about inner child wounds, a lot of it was an overstep of our personal boundaries, of our agency, us having our consent revoked, our voices stolen. As we do this work, we’re giving ourselves permission to be this person that we want to be.” – Yolanda
3 Mindset Shifts You Can Make to Be The Parent You Want to Be:
- Work away from the guilt, especially the guilt you may feel around what your parents will think about you choosing a different way for your children. This is a boundary you need to create and enforce!
- Decide what your boundaries are and decide what your children’s boundaries are. If you have a partner, include them.
- Know that this is forever. You’re going to constantly be healing and upgrading your mindsets and your skills throughout your parenthood. The goal is to be an awesome human and the work to get you there will never stop… and that’s a good thing!
Ready to start healing your inner child wounds? Listen in to this powerful discussion to learn more!
About Danielle Faust:
Danielle Faust is a dynamic, spiritual life coach, hypnotherapist, energy healer, psychic intuitive and speaker based in south Florida. Since 2009, she’s been spreading her brand of healthy positivity across the web and the nation. From 1:1 consulting, speaking, video content, digital and physical products, Danielle has found creative ways to inspire and promote spiritual and mental wellness to women worldwide.
A certified life and wellness coach, Danielle helps busy women manifest the lives they have been dreaming of. She has manifested an interview with Oprah, medical miracles, as well as her own dream life and hasn’t stopped there. Her coaching blends brain-based science, psychology and mindset reprogramming with spiritual and energetic modalities for a whole soul approach to healing and growth. After opening to her spiritual gifts in 2017, Danielle has helped guide women through life on a deeper level through psychic/intuitive readings and mediumship as well as energy healing and reiki.
As the candid voice behind OKDani.com, an award winning lifestyle blog, Danielle’s writing can be found across the web on topics ranging from spirituality and healthy living to travel and parenting. Her podcast, Manifest It, Sis! guides women of color toward their best lives in bite-sized episodes ranging in topics from personal development to intuitive awareness.
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